My possibly unpopular opinion on social interactions…

A friend of mine posted on Facebook yesterday about something that bothered him so I thought I’d share a few of my own thoughts on the subject. His post was about his opinion on the “fad of people popping in headphones the second they get up from their desk, in the elevator, etc.”

I read through the comments and made my own as well on the topic but here I want to fully invest in my opinion on the matter, so let’s go.

To start, I think that it has completely become the norm to pop in headphones at any random moment, be it walking to the bus station, heading to the break room or moving through the line in a grocery store. We all have our reasons. For some it is an easy distraction or a way to pass time and for others it is a way to let people know that you are not open to conversation without actually having to be a butt and say you are not open to conversation.

After reading the post my friend wrote as well as the comments that people made in response I became bothered by the fact that this “anti-social” act seems to offend or upset others. To me it seems silly that people are frustrated with their peers decision to abstain from socializing on their own time.

I personally am “that person”, the one who will put on headphones the moment I am on break because it’s my break and that’s the way I want to keep it. Is that wrong? No. Socializing is supposed to be a positive and fulfilling experience, in my opinion that means that all parties involved are there because they WANT to be.

I have more introvert qualities than extrovert. I can be social and the center of a conversation when I choose to be but most days I like to lay low. Why should I be looked at with annoyance because I don’t want to engage with my peers? I shouldn’t. No one should. Interaction for some takes more energy than can be imagined by those who are ‘social butterflies’.

Another issue I have with this whole topic is this; I have had days where I didn’t pop in headphones the instant I stepped away from my desk and hit the break room and still never wound up engaged in a scintillating conversation. Why do people think that the headphones in everyone’s ears are the real reason conversations aren’t happening? If someone wants to talk to you, it will happen. If not, it won’t happen…simple as that, headphones or not.

My main problem though is that it seems as if some people feel like they are entitled to a social interaction with their peers strictly because they are in the same place at the same time. No. It does not work that way. Social interaction is a two way street, there must be give and take. If my attention is not given then that means it is not your right to be offended if it does not become yours to take.  

I’m going to stop myself now because I can feel this post is only going to get longer and longer with my thoughts when I’m really eager to know your opinion on this. Does it bother you when you see your co-workers/peers choose their headphones over chatting? Do you think it should matter to others if you slink off to the break room with your music as your lunch date? Are you someone who always slips headphones in when you have a spare moment or do you hate when you witness this action from your peers? If I’m not the only one with an opinion on this, let’s discuss!

Reading vs. Watching (The Fault In Our Stars has spurred this post)

This is the thing, reading a book versus watching a movie based on the book will always be a different experience. I believe that a book can be adapted into a great movie. However, I don’t know that the feeling you will leave with after watching the movie will ever compare to the feeling you have after reading the book.

Think about it: when you read a book you spend hours, HOURS, with the characters. You can’t sit down and read a novel in two hours. You invest time into getting to know and understand the people that you are reading about. You get an inside look into their thoughts and opinions. You get personal with them. With a movie, as lovable as they try to make the character, you still lose the depth of that bond.

Last night I saw The Fault In Our Stars (loved it!) which I had also read the book for. The movie was brilliant, they kept so many of the great lines that made the characters so like-able (although there were some things that I would like to have seen included but were left out, understandably) and overall just did an amazing job of bringing the characters to life. As I stated before, I loved the movie, but I enjoyed the way I connected with the charecters more while reading the book. I want to know what you think, do you prefer reading the book or watching the movie versions?

New song! “Let it slide”

So I’ve been trying to figure out this whole music thing for years. I have no clue what I’m doing when it comes to making a song, all I know is that I like making them. I hope you enjoy this latest song, it’s definitely a work in progress but I feel like it’s off to a good start.

I can’t believe I actually released an album!

In case you missed the news, my album has been released! I am so happy that it’s done, it was a lot of work but I loved making it. The album is not perfect, there are a lot of things I think I would have liked to have done differently but I think that it’s still pretty awesome! I hope you will go check it out and support me by purchasing it or even just by sharing it with someone you think may enjoy my work! Thank you to everyone who has purchased a copy already, you guys rock! I can’t wait to create another!

 

Purchase “In the making”!

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An honest poem about letting someone take from your body without giving anything in return: Part two

 

I am thick thighs,
I mean THICK THIGHS
And flat ass
And plump middle

I am uncomfortable
When light and naked meet for the first time in your eyes

I am “insecure”
“Afraid”
“Embarrassed”

Question your intentions
Don’t believe a word you say
If any of it hints at wanting me

Don’t get me wrong,
I know my worth
Believe wholly in myself
Know I am amazing

But I don’t trust you when you say you know this too.
I can not “take your word for it”
My body taught me a long time ago that actions are the only language that means ANYTHING at all

Who here speaks my language?
I am a foreigner in the country of my flesh
Words are a meaningless currency here
And nothing is supposed to be cheap or easy to come by

But you want me to be free.

In your sheets
your eyes
Beneath your weight
As if I belong to your lips, your hands, your misguided opinion of me
Just because.

I am not something to check off your to-do list
You do not pencil me in like an oil change
Or a trip to the barbershop

You do not make me feel like I am unworthy
And get away with it

Did you know I can be intoxicating?
I have red wine lips you could get drunk off of
If you weren’t so scared shitless of taking a sip

Don’t you dare confuse me with your booty call
A midnight snack
I am a full course meal, if you hadn’t noticed

With my thick thighs,
I mean THICK THIGHS
And flat ass
(it’s wide but trust me it’s flat)
And plump middle

I never promised you anything
Just waited for the moment when light and my naked met for the first time in your eyes
And waited for you to speak my language

And waited
Wide open
For something that never came

 

 I know the title says this is part two, it is, but part one is not posted ob this site at the moment so don’t freak out and think you’ve missed something. You can read part one here.

Just wanted to share: Shakia Chanel

 

art lives

Last Friday I got the chance to be a part of an awesome artist showcase called Art Lives and it was a great evening. One of my favorite parts of the night was getting to hear Shakia Chanel perform. This girl is crazy talented and you guys know how I feel about crazy talented people, I just have to share them with you! Shakia’s voice is so pure, in my opinion, it’s one of those voices that just sound effortless. I hope you will enjoy this performance, it’s not from last Friday, but I’ll see if she posts any videos from then and if so, expect another post :) 

Make sure you let Shakia know how much you enjoy what she does! You can follow her on twitter @shakia_chanel  she’s also on facebook and youtube.